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The newest trend in wedding proposals is the double proposal. This practice gained popularity over the past few years, particularly in the LGBTQ+ community. Also known as partnership proposals, these latest engagement traditions are a great way to foster equality in a relationship and show that the commitment to one another is truly mutual.
So how does this kind of wedding proposal typically work? After the initial proposal from one partner, the remaining spouse-to-be asks their fiancé(e) to marry them, too. It’s a way to reciprocate their feelings of love, while also allowing their partner to feel all the same joy and importance that the first proposal inspired.
How to Know if a Double Proposal is Right for You
A double proposal isn’t always necessary. Up until recently, it wasn’t even the norm. But it definitely should be. Everyone has different ideas of how to propose and what it should look like when it happens. Most partners want the opportunity to play that experience out for the love of their life themselves. Having a double proposal permits both parties to deliver the engagement experience of their dreams. It also ensures both partners enter the marriage on an equal footing by removing heteronormative standards that place each gender in a specified role.
How to Normalize Partnership Proposals
Creating unique traditions is nothing new in the LGBTQ+ community and is a fabulous way to establish a sense of culture and identity that’s all their own. While partnership proposals are still primarily related to these communities, we are starting to see a shift in straight relationships, as well. The integration of these traditions into the mainstream is an incredible way to normalize the healthy relationship benefits presented by double proposals.
The ability for double proposals to completely defeat gender stereotypes is something many couples need right now. It removes all the pressure placed on one gender to develop all the best ways to propose and on the other to accept the terms of the agreement. Most modern couples discuss what they expect in marriage ahead of time, already laying out a set of established guidelines before a proposal is even asked. So it’s only natural that this tradition has slowly started to change in straight relationships to encompass a mutual engagement, rather than one-sided.
How to Make Your Wedding Proposal a Surprise
Keeping your plan a secret is probably the most challenging part of a double proposal. The good news is that many of the same rules for surprising your partner with an original request still apply. The best way to keep things a secret is to tell as few people as possible. Only let the essential people in on the fact that you intend to propose to your significant other. Otherwise, you risk one of the people involved spilling your secret ahead of time.
If you have your heart set on a public proposal in front of family and friends, you can do this without telling everyone what’s going on first. Instead of getting everyone together under the guise of an engagement announcement, try planning your partnership proposal around a special event or get together where everyone is already present. Doing this minimizes the potential of letting your partner know what’s coming.
How to Propose to Your Partner
Think of this second surprise proposal as your unique take on the engagement. Your partner asked you to marry them. Maybe they listed the many reasons they love you and talked about how you add joy to their lives. They did things their way, and now it’s your turn to repay the favor through your own perception of engagements. Stumped on how to do it? We can help you come up with the perfect idea that will be as equally impressive as their proposal idea was.
A ring isn’t necessary. But if your partner bought you one, then it’s only fair to reciprocate with some token that symbolizes your commitment. Some couples opt for lockets or other pieces of jewelry to express their love. No matter what you choose, select something as significant and meaningful as your feelings for them.
The last measure of note is knowing what to say. Your partner has already asked the hard question, and you’ve already said “yes.” So what else is there to say? While all the guesswork behind their answer is gone, it’s still important to establish what this engagement means to you personally. What do you love about your partner? Why are you excited to start this next phase in your relationship, and how do you plan to show your commitment to them each and every day?
How the Heart Bandits Can Help
Even the most well-thought-out ideas can use a little help from a wedding proposal planner. That’s where we come in. Not only can we offer you advice on where to start, but we can help you create a once in a lifetime proposal story from idea creation to full execution. We’ve got you covered!
You have enough to plan when it comes to finding all the right things to say. So contact us about our personalized proposal service today and let us do all the rest!