Marriage Proposal Checklist

Getting ready to propose is exciting—but let’s be honest, it can also be a little overwhelming. Between finding the perfect ring, planning the big moment, and making sure it’s a complete surprise, there’s a lot to think about. Whether you’re a natural planner or more of a go-with-the-flow type, having a marriage proposal checklist can take a ton of pressure off your shoulders.

Here’s a complete step-by-step guide to help you plan a proposal that’s unforgettable—for all the right reasons.

1. Make Sure You’re On the Same Page

Before anything else, make sure you’re both ready for this step. Have open (but subtle) conversations about the future. Do they want to get married? What’s their ideal timeline? What kind of proposal do they dream about—something private and intimate, or a big, show-stopping surprise?

2. Set a Budget

Start with the ring, but also consider the proposal itself. Think about:

• The cost of the ring

• Travel or venue expenses

• Photographer/videographer

• Floral arrangements or décor

• Musicians or performers

• Proposal planner (trust us, this can be a lifesaver)

Set a comfortable budget and prioritize what matters most.

3. Pick the Ring (or Start the Search)

You can go solo or involve a trusted friend or family member who knows your partner’s taste. Be sure to:

• Know their ring size (check a ring they already wear or ask subtly)

• Pay attention to their jewelry style (gold vs. silver, simple vs. vintage, etc.)

• Decide if you’re buying from a store or going custom (custom rings can take weeks!)

Don’t forget about insurance—it’s worth it.

4. Ask for Permission (If It Matters to Them)

This isn’t a must for every couple, but if your partner is traditional or close with their family, asking for a parent or guardian’s blessing is a meaningful gesture. It can be a nerve-wracking conversation, but it shows thoughtfulness and respect.

5. Brainstorm the Perfect Proposal Idea

Creating the perfect proposal idea is both the fun and the most stressful part. Think about what makes your relationship special:

• Favorite places

• Shared hobbies

• Inside jokes or traditions

• Meaningful dates or memories

The proposal should reflect your story. Need help coming up with something truly unique? That’s where professionals can step in (more on that below).

6. Hire a Proposal Planner

If you’re aiming for a surprise that’s polished, stress-free, and unforgettable, hiring a proposal planner is a game-changer. They can:

• Help you develop custom ideas

• Scout the perfect location

• Coordinate vendors

• Handle the logistics and timeline

• Be on-site to make sure everything runs smoothly

It lets you focus on the moment instead of juggling details behind the scenes.

7. Scout the Location

When thinking about how to propose, choosing the location is important.  Whether it’s a quiet beach, a rooftop, a garden, or a luxury hotel suite, location is everything. Think about:

• Lighting (especially if you’re hiring a photographer)

• Privacy vs. public setting

• Accessibility (can you both get there without suspicion?)

• Sound (is it peaceful enough to hear your words?)

• Weather (which leads us to…)

8. Have a Backup Plan (Always)

Mother Nature doesn’t care about your proposal plans. If your proposal is outdoors or weather-dependent:

• Have a solid Plan B location

• Bring umbrellas or blankets

• Coordinate with vendors to make sure they can pivot quickly

Your proposal planner will help manage this, but even a solo proposal needs a backup plan.

9. Book a Photographer or Videographer

You’ll both want to relive this moment, and there’s nothing better than capturing the real emotions. Choose someone who specializes in proposals—they know how to stay hidden, shoot in real time, and deliver amazing results.

Bonus: some proposal planners offer packages that include this service.

10. Plan the Details

Here’s what to lock down before the big day:

• What will you say? (Doesn’t need to be a speech—just speak from the heart)

• How will you get your partner to the location without suspicion?

• Will anyone else be involved? (Friends, family, pets?)

• What will you wear—and what should they wear? (You might need help coordinating this so your partner feels dressed for the occasion without catching on.)

11. Prepare the Ring + Delivery

Keep the ring safe and hidden until the moment arrives. Don’t carry it loose in your pocket—use a ring box that’s slim and easy to hide. There are even special boxes made for surprise proposals.

12. Plan the Post-Proposal Celebration

Think about what happens after the “yes.” Will it just be the two of you? A surprise dinner? A private chef? A party with family and friends waiting nearby? Keep the excitement going!

Planning a marriage proposal is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. With a little thought and preparation (and maybe a little help), it can be everything your partner has ever dreamed of—and more. The most important part? That it feels like you.

Ready to start planning your dream proposal? Contact us today for your free consultation.